Secular wisdom: Do the right thing, don't be afraid to be temporarily "out of step".

Secular wisdom has never been a slick social skill, but rather a clarity that emerges from the trials of life—knowing what truly matters to oneself and understanding which distractions are merely ephemeral. It requires you to integrate the lessons learned into your daily life, even if this "new behavior" temporarily makes you an "outlier" among your peers; you can still confidently say: "Your opinions can take a backseat for now."
When you're young, it's easy to be hijacked by the desire to "fit in." For example, in a university dormitory, when everyone is staying up late playing games and watching short videos, and you’re up late studying your major, you might get teased as the "overachiever" or "pretending to be serious"; when you first enter the workplace, while your colleagues are dining out after work, chatting, and complaining about slacking off, if you secretly stay behind to study industry reports or practice skills, you might be talked about behind your back as "trying too hard" or "not fitting in." In these moments, sticking to your own pace indeed requires courage—after all, nobody likes to be isolated, and no one wants to be the "minority" in the conversation.
But worldly wisdom will tell you: the welcome of peers often comes with an immediate filter. They enjoy spending time with you because you conform to the ease of the moment; they frown at your "eccentricity" because you break their familiar comfort zone. However, life’s rewards do not depend on who is most popular in the short term, but rather on who has built enough confidence in the long term. Those who were once mocked for "studying too hard" later seized opportunities that others scrambled for, thanks to their solid professional skills; those who were criticized for being "out of place" quietly accumulated resources and reputation in the industry. The so-called "worldly wisdom" is about seeing this clearly in advance: the excitement will eventually fade, and only the foreshadowing you have laid down for yourself will speak for you in the future.
The confidence behind "Let them go to hell" is never arrogance, but clarity. It means you finally understand: true growth always comes with a sense of "loneliness"—while you are accumulating, others are consuming; while you are taking root, others are drifting. This temporary feeling of being "unwelcome" is merely a filter on the path of growth: it filters out those who can only accompany you on an easy journey, and it allows you to see more clearly who will applaud your perseverance and which matters are worth betting your current "misunderstanding" on.
In the end, the ultimate answer of worldly wisdom is to learn to take responsibility for your own life. You adjust your behavior not to please anyone but to become a better version of yourself; you are not afraid of temporary isolation, not because you don't care about relationships, but because you care more about "years later, looking back, whether you can justify this moment to yourself." After all, the judge of life is never the fleeting opinions of your peers, but the final answer that time will give - those "cold shoulders" you once endured for your persistence will eventually become the most stable foundation under your feet when you stand higher. #特朗普施压鲍威尔#